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Self-Acceptance

Today I was looking for blogs on self-acceptance that are similar to mine, and there really aren’t any.  Interestingly, most self-acceptance blogs specifically deal with acceptance of your body.  Apparently that’s the main thing people have trouble with.  I guess I’m in the right business. 

Anyway, I realized that the phrase self-acceptance only appears once in my entire blog, and that’s in the little blurb on the top of the first page, so I figured I better correct that.  This probably should have been the first post, but oh well.  Better late than never.

I believe that, no matter how well-adjusted someone is, everyone has a part of them that tries to make them feel bad about themselves.  Call this part what you want–your inner demon, your inner critic, your superego–but there’s no question that it’s there.  And there are lots of other parts of us, too–children, warriors, and rock stars, just to name a few.  And just like in real relationships, sometimes these parts don’t get along.

We are often at war with ourselves: there are parts of us that we do everything in our power to get rid of and hide from the rest of the world.  That’s why people want and fear therapy at the same time.  On the one hand, we think, hey wouldn’t it be great if I told someone my deep, dark secrets and she said I wasn’t crazy?  But at the same time we think, but what if she does think I’m crazy? That would be terrible.  That’s why it’s always a courageous thing when someone goes to therapy.

Therapists have the luxury of hiding behind their professional status if they want to.  You don’t want to seem too crazy, or no one will want to come see you.  But if you seem too perfect, then it’s hard for clients to relate to you.  Although I want to be transparent, I know I err on the side of seeming perfect because it feels safer that way.

But as I get older,  I want to be more honest about who I am and accepting of all my flaws, and I want to do this in a way that inspires other people do the same.  It’s always better to show someone how to do something than it is to tell them how to do it, so that’s why I started this blog. 

Sometimes it’s still terrifying to publish some of these posts, but when someone tells me that they  related to one them, that they think just like I do, then I know I’m doing the right thing.

Since some of you liked my last doodle, I thought I’d post another one for you.

About Christy Barongan

I didn't know it at the time, but I wanted to be a psychologist so that I could figure out how to be normal. I think many people come to counseling for the same reason. What I've come to learn is that feeling good about myself is not about trying to be normal. It's about trying to be me. But it's a constant struggle for me, just like it is for everyone else. So I thought I would approach this task with openness and honesty and use myself as an example for how to practice self-acceptance.

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