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In a Perfect World

I think I would really enjoy living in paradise.

Although I do wonder sometimes if it would get boring after a while. I know some people who live at the beach say they hardly ever go, even though they moved there because they love the beach. It is no longer the place they fantasize about escaping to; it just becomes the place they live.

I know I said in my last post that perhaps things can only be extraordinary when you compare them to something ordinary. Maybe that doesn’t just apply to paradise. Maybe that applies to everything. A beautiful day. An exciting win. A perfect date. Maybe things can only be wonderful if sometimes things are terrible. At least that’s what I tell my clients as a way to help them appreciate sadness, anger, fear, and heartbreak.

Still, I’d like to give it a shot, just to make sure.

For me, in a perfect world…

I would have a place in Hawaii and Switzerland. And it wouldn’t take an entire day to get there.

It would be easy to find someone to date. And he would never drive me crazy.

Federer would always win.

The weather would always be perfect for tennis. And when it rained, it would do so after midnight.

I would have enough money to get awesome seats at any sporting event.

UVA would win the national championship in football and basketball in the same year.

My family and friends would always be healthy, happy, and safe. And so would I.

Every morning I would wake up feeling like something exciting was going to happen.

No one would make me feel ashamed that I woke up at noon.

Every book I read would be the kind that I never want to end.

And when it did, there would be a sequel that’s just as good as the first one. Maybe a whole series, even.

And then the author would write another series and that one would be just as good.

My blog would be widely read.

Some big-time publisher would approach me and tell me they want to turn my blog into a book.

I would be packing right now instead of procrastinating. And I would have put away my laundry last night instead of sleeping with all my folded clothes next to me in the bed.

I would be excited before a trip instead of stressed out about all of the things that I have to do before I leave.

I would not be depressed after the trip was over because there would be something new and exciting waiting for me when I got home.

Today I woke up at 6 am, which is crazy for me. I was all excited and couldn’t fall back asleep. There’s lots of good tennis on at Wimbledon today. My mixed doubles team plays tonight, and we have a good chance of winning. And all I have to do today is pack for my trip tomorrow, where I will get to play more tennis and spend time with my niece.

Maybe it’s not a perfect world, but we can still have moments of perfection. And this is one of them, because Federer’s match is about to start.

About Christy Barongan

I didn't know it at the time, but I wanted to be a psychologist so that I could figure out how to be normal. I think many people come to counseling for the same reason. What I've come to learn is that feeling good about myself is not about trying to be normal. It's about trying to be me. But it's a constant struggle for me, just like it is for everyone else. So I thought I would approach this task with openness and honesty and use myself as an example for how to practice self-acceptance.

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  1. ChristIe, you pose some interesting questions. What is paradise? What makes me happy? Can I stay in my happy place forever? Or, do I have tocome back down to earth? Do we have to have ups and downs?
    I live metres from a beautiful beach and these days I walk my dogs there most mornings and yes, I know it,s heaven. I live with what can be at times severe chronic health so I know all about carpendiem seize the day and for me that involves trying to maintain a precarious balance between my inner and outer worlds: my writing and family, ffriends and community. I have had to reevaluate material things aand not so much had to go without but be judicious…not always successfully. Everybody has different reasons for wanting to live and doing what you can to nurture these in your life or work towards them, that is your best shot at paradise on Earth xx Rowena

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  2. I am haunted by the quest for perfection… never quiet finishing what i start because it wont turn out as perfectly as I had envisioned and then resolving that if something is not worth doing perfectly then its not worth doing and eventually nothing gets done at all….
    …..stuck on the verge of being about to but never quite starting

    ~B

    ps but sometimes the flaws are more fascinating than that without fault perfectly flawed

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  3. In a perfect world, I everything I need to get done would be already done. Everyone else would conform to my way of thinking. Good idea of yours to restrict rain to the night-time lol!

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